my boss gets punchy in the early afternoon. i try to have a white board marker in hand because i know he's bound to say something that will send us into fits of laughter and i'm going to want to capture it.
and while it's always funny, sometimes it is also very wise. which led me to call them nuggets (you know, like 'nuggets of wisdom'). and then i called them chicken nuggets because i'm a dorkina and i do things like that. he has a rubber chicken on his desk (seriously, people, don't ask) and so the title grew to rubber chicken nuggets during one of those early afternoon moments.
one of his greater rubber chicken nuggets was when he was talking about becoming second in your life, so that God can be first, and he said,
dang it - i love that. think about that. chew on it. roll it over in your mouth and experience it.
(we also say about rubber chicken nuggets that you can chew on 'em forever. i admit we have a lot of fun at work).
i've been thinking about some other nuggets. mostly ones i have been working at in my own life. and maybe none of you need this information in front of you like i do, if so then consider these posts me capturing them on my 'white board'.
rubber chicken nugget #1
should - NOT!
try not to say "you should have..." to people. it sends a message that you think they are inadequate, incapable, have done/said/decided something wrong or bad, and that you know more than they. even if any of these reasons are true, there is no value in reminding someone or holding it over their head.
and since you're saying "should have..." it is probably after the fact, and isn't it a bit late to be saying something now?
if you have neat information to share that you hope someone benefits from, then use a kinder, gentler approach. if you are saying it for other reasons, maybe it's best not to say it all, huh?
i've been working on saying things like "hey i found a cool way to do that, wanna hear it?" or "oh yes, i struggle with that, too, and a wise friend told me..." or "that happened to me, too. then i found this website [or book or other resource] that helped"... it puts us on the same level (where we belong) and tells my friend they are not alone, they are not the only ones that have thought/acted like that, and that i don't judge them for what they did/said.
people are so much more receptive to things i have to say when i don't shame them or act superior, but rather share it simply from one friend to another.
Why do you pass judgment on your brother? Or you, why do you despise your brother? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God; Romans 114:10
stay tuned for more rubber chicken nuggets
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