week five

another night of married couples' study.. it was pretty good. this past week we went over the role of a man as laid out in the timothys and titus and the role of a woman as laid out in proverbs 31 (ah yes, the perfect wife scripture. yup. that would be the one).

the study even warned us not to get caught up in getting down on ourselves in the areas where we just don't measure up. it's hard to not do that. but then we looked at the man's role, and whoowee! that's a toughie! i'm happy with prov31, thankyouverymuch!

there truly is a comfort in knowing i am not the head of this family. i don't have that responsibility. now, my dot may grant me authority over certain areas - and he does! and he may have me manage the house - and he does! but at least i am not responsible for the spiritual health and well-being of him as he is me.

and there is freedom in not usurping his authority. well, actually, it is not his authority i would be usurping. if Christ is his head and i try and rule over him, i am essentially taking over Christ's role in my husband's life. and Jesus is not tolerant of His authority being usurped! eek!!

but stepping back and letting go of that authority is so freeing. one can actually have the presence of mind to focus on better things - God's love and law.

i'm not trying to say that i try and control my dot, but i have lived alone for quite some time and there have been things that i am just used to doing for myself. and i know there are things that he is used to NOT doing - looking after someone, being responsible for someone,..

i think we've gotten into some habitual roles that we'll need to break, but i think the mindset of desiring to do so is definitely present! a start. small. but still a start.

yay for us.